One Thing You Could Do Better
The main thing I can do better would be going to bed on time.Such a simple thing. Yet, I've struggled so much with it.It's part of my past conditioning with staying up late due to being in a position of building my own brand, my own company, call it a startup at the time if you may too.It's only been 3 years total from this point in time in which I have been building a micro habit of staying up late. I said the above as though it was a thing I have conditioned myself for throughout my entire life.Maybe I have.Wait.I love rising early. But after much deliberate thought, I realized that it had more to do with my not going to bed on time than with my waking up early.On the brink of another realization, and based on an extremely recent conversation I had with a dear friend, it stems even deeper than waking up early and going to bed on time. I have been sabotaging myself for many years for the reasons of doing too much or overextending myself for the following reasons:(1) As mentioned, I was in a phase of intense building, and still somewhat am, with my company and brand, Dream BIG & Co. So, that required extended amounts of time from what I would normal allot to work.(2) I try to please others and do more than is needed for a two-fold reason..... to both prove myself/look better than I am or because I was just being too kind and would impulsively say "yes"(3) I wouldn't respect myself. So by trying to "jump the gun" and make while the opportunity I had in front of me at the time, I would give in to doing more and receiving less than was sufficient and valuable for me.Not going to bed on time resembles more than just lack of discipline for me at times. It does not have to do with motivation at this point. This stems wayyyyy deep.Which is why I've been so dumbfounded and amazed that such a simple thing is so difficult for me. My constant failure with such a simple task is revealing more about myself than I ever thought - until now.
Things to Learn About
I want to learn about the human mind and writing. Even more deeply, I want to under spirituality and God more.Those two core fundamentals that stem to larger endeavors of mine.The human mind for the subjective knowing and opinion that it will allow me to understand myself better and to interact with others better. I want to know why people do what they do - especially on a relational level. I've seen lack of communication be such a fault to great relationship. But there are also plenty of things I see in others that they don't see in themselves. There are major blindspots at stake here. What if people were aware of these things? Oh.... how life would be so worthwhile.I also want to help my mom, dad, and others around the world understand past traumas in order to overcome present anxiety and fears. Basically, what the "self-authoring suite" is doing for me now. Furthermore, I'll do it for others in my own way, as well.The reason I say writing too is because I'm good at it. I enjoy it so much. I love storytelling. Poetry is beautiful to me. Books have always been a fascination to me too. It's why I read auto-biographies, biographies, and personal-development books when I was younger. People and their journeys fascinated me.I can even explain the comic book story with my friend Vinny in elementary school. Having our principal almost display it at the school stand is validation of that artist, creator, and writer in me. Even without that, the fact that I did such a thing at such an age is a validation of my point already.
Improve Your Habits
At school?......I dropped out of school for reasons that were subjective and valuable to me. But one thing has been on my mind so much lately: I want to finish a degree of some sort by getting a certification or qualification in therapy, psychotherapy work, or something pertaining to the field of meditation/mindfulness.So, the habit to improve would be doing the work when I'm in the work.At work?......Speak better as a leader (use simple language if need be)Communicate as effectively and efficiently as possible to teamSpend more time in deep work (everything else: automate, delegate, diminish)Be straight forward with people - know my worth and don't waste others time because I don't have courage in expressing somethingBecome a better writer, speaker, storyteller to enhance films, work, and actual stories that are createdSave money betterInvest money properlyEliminate all debt (only debt I have is student loans)With friends and family?......Be concise in speech and have detailed explanations when need beLet my guard down, smell the roses when needed/wantedExpressing my love for someone with clarity and directionLaughing more and not being as serious at times (even though sports with others and that nature of things gets me competitive, which is fun for me)For your health?......Going to bed on time; consistently waking up early (5 am or earlier)Working out out dailyA daily yoga practiceTaking time to write and read in isolation everydayDrinking appropriate macros of water everyday (subjective to my own body)Not eating as fast I do and enjoying moments of gratitude with my intake of foodWith regards to smoking/alcohol/drug use?......Have some wine on the weekends (as I set a boundary for myself that liquor on the weekends is best)Try CBD oil, marijuana, and learn more about psychedelics/spiritual medicines through research, experimentation (if God tells me so), and implementation through practices with others
Your Social Life in the Future
My ideal social life.Before I get into the exact people, I want to talk about the characteristics that are exuded from those I am around now and those I want to be close with going forward.I want to be around people who value growth, service, adventure, and can harmonize their work and play. A growth mindset person is a person that aligns with me. I want individuals who give it to me straight and leave no room for assumptions, lies, and statements of "being too kind not to hurt my feelings."I want individuals in my circle whose mindset is stable in growth and change in order to progress forward on their journeys and specific aims. From there, their monetary worth and social net worth will grow as well. This will influence our relationship and allow each other to play and work extremely hard - all while helping each other to the utmost.In terms of the category of friends I want to have, I want it to range. I want friends who are self-employed in Africa and run an adventuring workshop and someone who is a billionaire in America because their startup is so successful. I want people in my life who respect themselves and others.The realms I particularly enjoy knowing people in are: mindfulness, psychology, health/wellness, media, writing, startups, entrepreneurship, and adventuring.I also want to say that my digital life and real life will be mixed. I would love to meet people through social networks as I do on Twitter now...... then eventually meet them in person.The ultimate thing of my social network is to have everyone I know, know each other. That would be an unbelievably powerful thing."Friends are the family you choose."I have the great family ever. I was blessed with such a thing. But my social network is one I created. I'm blessed to have built and attracted that too.
Your Leisure Activity in the Future
My leisure life would consistent of optimal adventuring, incredible experiences, witness great movies, reading great books, and having extremely deep conversations (which would grow my competence, speaking abilities, and network even more so).For me, I value my time at $50 an hour. So, at this rate, I'm wasting $70,000 per year, if I don't use my time intentionally, thoughtfully, and wisely.That's powerful. Wow.Life is all about time and money. We have time to spend and no money to use. Or money to spend and no time to use. The thing of time and money has been on my mind a ton lately. Maybe that's why I've been changing as much as I am. I've been evolving into what I should eliminate and what I should keep, so that it fits with this value and principle I now have (and one that I tested in fires an immense amount of times).Looking at my vision board, bucket list, and more, I want to experience events through travel, ultra-endurance feats, and adventuring. That's a high priority for me. I also want to try food and drinks I've never tried before. I want to read so much and learn about the mind, people, writing, and fields of my craft. I most certainly want to spend time with love ones. That can consist of friends and family. But I want it to consist of an internally and externally beautiful feminine female partner that fits my non-negotiables in the future.I want to look back at my lists and cross everything off that I once dreamed of. I want to make my vision a reality, through and through. I want people to love me for who I am and be doing what I want to live life fully outside of work, family, and "schooling" (because education is everywhere for me). Most importantly, I want to reflect on my life before I die and say I lived a life I'm proud of and maximized it to the highest degree possible. I want to respect myself and love myself. That's important to me.
Your Family Life in the Future
I want to be around people that uplift me and make me better. A challenge system and a support system. Transparency, vulnerability, love, kindness, and accountability are important to me.I want the family I have now, yet with more financial bandwidth and more openness for deep truth (even deeper than my family is now with that). Patience and understanding required too.With friends I want people who uplift me, call me out on my wrongs, and see my blindspots and then point out what I could do better. I want guys and girls to travel with and share memories with. I want to build amazing things with them too.As in having a partner, she has to have a growth mindset. Without that, the relationship will slowly deteriorate over time or it will be harder than it needs to be. This feminine female must be purpose driven in her work so much so that it’s a calling. As stated someone with sincerity, empathy, and respect is a must. I want this women to be able to know me so well and be so aware that she is able to counter-balance me. Not that I want a person to care for me like my mom did when I was younger, but rather someone who knows me deeply.This partner must challenge me, support me, and keep her distance when she knows I need it. Unlike the traditional romance, she won't depend on anyone for her own happiness. Her communication must be effective so that we can work through problems effectively. Having her enjoy travel and adventuring is a plus, along with reading and binging movies at times.Her life priorities must be: God and health first, family second, friends and other third. Her confidence should be silent, yet salient. I want her to have a BIG family with me too.And although external characteristics are secondary, I still must list them as this partner being equal height or shorter than me, dirty blonde straight hair, brown eyes, beautiful body, eyes, and smile, beautiful white teeth, nice, soft lips, a fit body, and able to have amazing sex.
Your Career in the Future
Someone once said, "In order to walk the path, you have to become the path." Meaning if you want to become an author, you have to engulf yourself into what an author would do and how an author would perform. That means researching, learnings, great writing habits, knowing how to market a best-seller, etc.....My way of becoming the path is focused on helping others get out of their own way or "navigate non-conscious perceptions for the purpose of having a better understanding of their own consciousness."I want to be a major leader in the space of personal development and storytelling - whether that be through cinema of sorts, psychology or psychotherapeutic practices, and/or media.I've done it all my life. I've assisted people in navigating their own non-conscious perceptions due to arrogance or ignorance since I was young. Self-awareness has been key for that.In six months, I want to have a fully operation business, invest in great tech business and help them too, be in a great city, able to pay employees, and make original content on personal development/storytelling without worry of financials. I want to be a leader in my business with different divisions established below me. All tasks will be automated, delegated, or completely diminished if they don't serve me or my team.In two years, I want to have my own loud-speaker online with a major following on all platforms - allowing me to garner more attention for my business but bring immense value to others in a way that is true to me.Along with that, I want to grow personally - since I can't achieve the things I want if I'm not the person that does those exact things.In five years, I see a major evolution occurring. I want to be financial free with student loan debt payed off. I want to have certifications in the spiritual realm (i.e higher yoga cert, Reiki cert, psychedelic research, psychology degree, etc.), be a spokesperson for God through my teachings, and an established independent individual.
The Ideal Future
I want to be a life-long learner who is optimized in his path and ever-changing in his ways of evolution, getting stronger as pressure gets harder. A disciple, spokesperson for God, and vessel for the universe to work through me. Someone who lives that through and through. Someone who respects himself too. Someone who is present in every conversation and serves others.I want to know multiple languages so I can interact with people along different cultures, while aligning my intention and value of traveling the world to experience those cultures and places that embody it. Accomplishing everything listed below in bullets and on my bucket list will be the goal - while also documenting it.I am in others and they are in me.Having a masssssisve library is something I truly want. Like an absolutely massive library.A communicator that hits souls every time I speak.A connector for people to themselves, others, and nature/universe/God.A creator of beautiful writings, stories, films, and things that I build.Each adventure I have should be optimal with incredible experiences, consuming great content for my mind, reading great books, and having extremely deep conversations.I will embody this quote: "it's not who you know, but what you know about who you know."When I speak, I will be intentional, talk when I need to, and pack a damn punch - shown in effect by laughs and others profoundly learning.I want to be able to let go of things better. I'm an emotional human and love people deeply so when I love them or they leave me.... or I can't see a "thing" anymore, it makes me sad. I tend to cling since I have a hard time grasping onto moving forward from the "thing" or "person" I was just personally close with. I must put trust in myself, enjoy the process, have belief in myself and God's plan. Controlling what I can and letting go of what I can't will be vital. I will not try to impress others, rather myself, which will then lead to impact and "impressing others" (which doesn't matter but can happen). Through authenticity, vulnerability, and knowing my values so much, I'll be able to adjust my environment to align with all of those and my actions as well. "As Viktor Frankl says, "A man who has a why can endure any how."Most importantly, if I have a particular aim or desire that I'm progress with and pursuing, I will live, and thus exude, patience. As I said before, I will trust God and take action to let things align as they should.Lastly, when I commit, I will always be disciplined to follow through. This doesn't really apply to my desires or aims because I do that well and have done that well all my life. I go the extra mile and follow through. But when it comes to relationships with a feminine female, I will commit and stay long-term. When things get hard, I will prove that I am able to commit by actual committing. I will pick someone right for me and someone that uplifts me. If I can do this myself and tame the feminine within myself and understand it, then I can externally do the same for my partner.I will heal them by saving myself. I truly have that as a top goal in life. Family is a top value for me. Any ripples of impact starts within though.Listen, it's okay to change one's mind based on new information. But I will be committed through and through as I know I want to subjectively with things true to me. I will embody the Words of the Bible and what the Four Agreements say in don Miguel Ruiz's book.I will improve myself to the highest degree possible, while also living fully, loving fully, and letting go of those things outside of my control.To live out a life in correlation to the values of Jesus and to have the greatest relationship possible to God.To document others, tell stories through audio/visual/written form, and help people understand their own/further to internally evolve as an individual - even if they want to change or not.My ideal day is as follows: (see Blueprint for more)-------Why do you want the above things said? I am proud of myself everyday I am alive. But becoming the person who can do the above will be the ultimate fulfillment of my life. I will be doing the work God has commissioned me to do. I will have achieved my ultimate path in life - but only by becoming one who can walk that path and be that path will those things actualize and manifest.How do you plan to achieve your goals? The below answers those questions.When will you put your plans into action? The below answers those questions.Short-Term (1-3 Years)- Starting Phase:- ~~Fully plant-based in my diet (track my macros and plan diet, experimentation - keto is working great)- ~~Fully fluent in Espanol (Fluent Forever, Spanish Learning plan I have set; duplicate that for other languages)- ~~Transcend knowledge with film and content creation (DB & Co work; Learn Cinematography courses; mentors)- Get Reiki cert and advance in yoga (take Reiki course with Sema in Wayne, NJ to get cert; do 200 hours for yoga cert - advancement from what I had before with cert)- Start psychotherapy route (talk to Chloe Miller and Jordan Gross; look into institutions that are best for it)- Medium Phase:- Middle Phase:- Have my own website (building on Squarespace now)- Build my own computer (talk to Anthony Fenu, Riley, Baker, or ask Michael Stromeyer's client for one)- Close to 1/2 million in revenue for DB & Co (follow strategic initiative and monetization plan; grow team; scale through our site and HubSpot resources)- 1 million followers across all social media platforms for DB & Co (follow strategic initiative and monetization plan; grow team - ESPECIALLY THIS; scale through our site and HubSpot resources)- Long Phase:- End Phase:- Be speaking at frequent speaking engagements (grow social media and online presence to do such a thing; and my own expertise)- Understand psychedelics, self, and the nonconscious mind on a high level (psychotherapeutic route will lead to this, continually reading, living, and research as well)- $10k in overall investments (side hustles, save money, invest with proper research)- Triple yearly income to $30k + and build credit score to 800 and credit line to $10k + (close to the latters; former will come from DB & Co growth and other streams of income)- Grow closer to God, increase my faith, develop more love for myself and others, and gain a heightened spiritual awareness and sense (meditation, prayer, studying the word, talking with my circle to increase this)Medium-Term (4-7 Years)- Starting Phase:- Know my main places of residency for good (i.e. NYC, Philly, LA, Austin, etc.) (planning travels to those places so I can see and then decide)- Have done 5-10 documentaries/featured films for DB & Co and tons of original content (loading)- Medium Phase:- Write my own book (wrote foreword for Dad's book - 30 Day Approach; doing my own now and with and team with Sacred Monday; writing everyday and taking online courses will help this too)- Find an LP and friends to regularly travel with (have a BIG family with that LP) (improve myself and find my place of residency to narrow it down some more)- Long Phase:- Pay off all debt 100% (grow income and reserves and investments to do so)- Just be fulfilled, happy, and live in love always (use Self-Authoring program; my Blueprint; daily routines; be present (through practices to craft this more so too), and reflect to do so)Long-Term (7-10 Years).......... (have to plan all of these out in a couple years) (see Blueprint for more)-----I want to end up in a place of acceptance and peace - amongst the "chaos" and "pain".I want to live a life in service to others through teaching, speaking, and listening.
A Future to Avoid
A life in which everything on this earthly plain rules over me. That is one I don't ever want to live. Due to consciousness within the human species, we have the ability to elevate ourselves. Thanks to God's grace and the salvation of Jesus, we can be forgiven for our wrongs and walk this path of life with Him.When I said "earthly plain" above, I meant all these worldly matters. I don't want to have things control my thoughts. I don't want others to control my thinking. I don't want to fall prey to doing tasks for others out of mere necessity out of not having the bandwidth to do things for myself and on my own.Freedom and my relationship with God is important. So, living a life that opposes that is a future I want to avoid.If I never make time for reading, writing, and learning, what am I doing? If I never allow myself the ability to enjoy this life, what is the point of living? Not to neglect pain and its inevitable experience in our lives, but rather to be at peace in that space and accept the happenings that enter into living.The worst thing I can, and the best thing I can avoid in the future, is lying to myself and others. Not being true to what my intuition tells me and not following the path God wants me to proceed upon. The worst moments in my past came largely from two things: not following my heart and not being truthful in my communication to others.This will allow me to convey my vision of certain future aims to others and to walk down a path that allows others to trust in me and me to trust in myself.With following my heart, that applies to personal happens, professional moves, and allows respect. If my body is crying for sleep, get sleep and build great habits to nurture that. If my mind is asking for information, consume it correctly. If my soul is screaming for connection to God, don't ever, ever ignore that.I would hate to be the person who doesn't have enough or doesn't seem like enough to others - which would stem from not seeing myself as enough or not having the correct mindset to have enough or build up the ark/foundation/seeds to grow my financial bandwidth to always be able to do what I want, when I want, with who I want.But even when I'm able to do the latter, discipline and an upholding my values will be critical. That will allow me to always prioritize what I want to most in this life and not fall stray to the worldly desires I mentioned in the beginning and not controlling the things that I can control.I want to be in a place where I achieve all of my future aspirations with the according plans set in place for those goals. I want my ideal day to come to fruition and far surpass what I even thought I was capable of.That will only come from having a still and sound mind, strong body, and secured soul.
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