Framework:
1) What is best for your current reality? Does your environment align with your values? Do your values align with your environment?
2) Can you persist in your current sacrifice (well.... you can always persist if you truly want to)? It's more so, "Are you willing to persist in your current sacrifice?" If not, adjust and align.
3) Think about others? Will this hurt or help others? Am I doing this solely for myself or others? How old am I? Do I have responsibilities? Will this transition cover my basis psychological, biologically, and financially?
4) Make sure you reflect when going through any sort of pain. Check your values. Update your blueprint if needed. Reference your principles.
- Pain + Reflection = Progress (Ray Dalio)
5) Go on long walks and allot time for isolation to think independently. Triangulate your view with those you trust and those that would give worthwhile advice in the current scenario.
- Go to God first, go to yourself next, then go to family, then go to friends thereafter. This can be adjusted over time though (besides God) - especially because friends might be a better fit for inserting their opinion in specific scenarios too.
6) Do all of the above before coming to the next phase: How am I going to communicate this to everyone? When? What will I say and who will I say it to?
7) At the end of the day, it's your destiny (or I should say co-destiny alongside God). Don't let others waver you if you don't want to be wavered. With that said, have a strong foundation and make sure your decision is at its best. People will question and poke as they should. Use those exchanges as a way to strengthen your decision and test your mind. Use those exchanges as a way to detach more and let go of things/others as needed/wanted. Use those exchanges to become more aware and a better communicator. Use those exchanges as a way to deepen relationships or rid oneself of certain relationships that didn't stand amidst the test.
8) "The PIVOT" isn't that hard. The actually thing that's hard is communicating "The PIVOT" to others. (well for me that's the case because I enjoy moving around and being independent. The world is my home).
9) Be easy on oneself and write plenty. Be easy on others and accept that they make mistakes and have faults too.
10) Remember: If it feels right, it's probably right. Your subconscious doesn't lie. But remember to use logic and your principals through any BIG decision. The difference between you and the average billionaire is they just take slow, calculated risks.
Gatherings + Observations During “The Pivot”:
Nick Nanakos - "Make decisions fast, but change your mind slow." (Nick Nanakos)
Tom (verbatim of one comment) - "Think and meditate on the consequences of fully not adapting this new self. I do agree, you need to: Incorporate and mold your shadow better! [everything] Your new self is going to produce new thoughts [new perspective] because of the change in scene. However, use your old actions from your old self [habits; and build new ones]. Know what works for you [self-awareness]. And use the new thoughts with old actions that work, and in time this will transcend into a new outcome. We can def talk later after 5."
Adam (in short summary, takeaway from our convo) - even if everything fails, you'll still have won :).... if you win, all the better
The Story of the Chinese Farmer (analogy) - middle mindset, moderative thinking
Justin (in short summary, takeaway from our convo) - some of the greatest self-awareness he's ever seen me use thus far in life
Josh - "whisper is so soft, but the noise is so loud - and you're doing a good job of listening to the whispers; I understand you even when I don't understand you; Selfishly.... as in I..... I'm happy our whispers are leading us to the same place."
Gram - "You're young and can, and should, take risk"
Mark Westdyke - "I believe you create your own luck [in life]..... and you certainly have done that."
AD - "You are more brave than I ever was"; "Make sure you don't meet someone and stay"
Pop-Pop - “Don’t do too much too fast.”
The songs one listens to during an important time show a lot about how they’re feeling. The two songs I’ve been listening to LOTSSSS are Lord I Know, Sad People by Kid Cudi on his Man on the Moon III album and Everything That’s Missing by Big Sean on his Detroit 2 album.
Conversation (more so message) from God on 3/18/21 @ 4:30 pm est: I sought out silence. I sought out God. I stripped everything away in the parking lot of the PAL while picking up Nick (little bro) from his basketball practice. I needed time with God. I closed my eyes and forgot all the bullshit that matters in this worldly plain. I then opened up by being vulnerable - in a sort of nothingness. What matters in this life of mine? I thought of family, I thought of love. I had God tell me through a whisper: “No matter what you do I’ll still love you.” God’s mercy. Always. Love.
Fear Setting:
- Homeless, no money, and no opportunities
- TBX goes bankrupt
- Austin, TX is invaded by aliens and the entire state of Texas is in shambles
- The stock market crashes to all time lows
- My family and friends never talk to me again
- I don't learn anything while in Austin, TX
Intention Setting:
- I don't want to recognize myself in a couple years due to such positive growth and internal change with knowing my shadow and implementing crystalized old habits, and new habits to come, with my new self.
- Grow TBX to being a $100B company
- Execute The Scale strategy with the TBX brand
- Don't just seek freedom, seek the capability to have peace - even in the chaos.
- Do what I love (and progress towards my future goals with what I deeply want to fulfill alongside God), be with great people, and be in a place I enjoy
- If something feels off, or isn't going how I should, or I don't like something, don't hesitate to opt out.
- Becoming a better writer, reader, and thinker
- Molding my body and mind into the best, most sound shape ever
Outcome Detachment:
- Six-figure monthly income and more rewards in the TBX company
- Elevation in my position within the TBX team
Notes Taken During “The Pivot”:
Points to Write Massive Reflection On:
The Pivot - Plan & Execution:
FIGURE OUT how I’m going to communicate this massive move and transition from DB & Co, with fam, friends, others to TBX and in Austin, TX
- Advice from Jack Kamen (Infected with Fire): “Speak from the heart. That’s the key to giving you peace. How others receive it is outside of your control.”
Thinking…..
Knowledge compounds (read the best books, watch the best videos, take the best courses, have the greatest mentors)
Partnership and legal with partnerships and to make sure to sign contracts for LLCs (Nihal example)(marriage example - luckily we weren't married or this divorce would be insanely hard)
When doing work - have everything in writing to verify it
Watching the mini-doc at least half a dozen times over at this point haha
Jordan Gross new book
Crying after Nick gave me his charger
Letting go of my baby
Can't walk on its own - not self-sustaining
How do we move forward?
Advice from Jack Kamen (Infected with Fire): “Speak from the heart. That’s the key to giving you peace. How others receive it is outside of your control.”
Lord I Know on repeat
Give alternatives to clients and to partners if need be. Always show you're going the extra mile and everything will be okay.
"Provide alternatives to clients now and options for relief on their end" (what is says on my to do list)
2 things to remember during this time:
The 3 most important decisions of your life are where you live, who you're with, and what you do.
Also..... you can only control how you react to things and how you handle situations, not the situation itself for the most part. Especially if it's outside your control.
One thing I didn’t anticipate is how emotional draining this would be with talking to everyone - like damn it’s tough - especially if I can’t do it all at once as LeBron James did with his decision
Reputation is priceless - Buffett quote of it takes decades to build and seconds to shatter
Always seek understanding, not right or wrong. Don’t listen to reply, listen to understand.
The greatest form of progress is letting go - maybe just temporarily too
Pure intent and truth has no catalyst to hesitation. If it’s known, it’s known
The hardest decision is usually the right one..... and the most worthwhile
Two things from Jordan Gross’s DB Daily Ep #80 that helped during this time: 1) Are you saying this for yourself or for helping/understanding/giving to/etc. others? 2) Are you living your own path or the expectations of others?
Thought to Self on 3/17/21 (11:11 am):
It feels so good to start over. My mind and soul was craving for more space. I tried to create it with Dream BIG & Co., my brand and business, but it wasn't meant to scale just yet. I never had the correct process/structure or direction in doing such a thing at the time.
I had in my daily grail 6-weeks in a row to create more allotted time for myself to read, write, etc. At this point in time, I need to learn more and have more financial bandwidth to absorb new ideas and strategies to go where I'm going.
All of this seems sudden. "The Pivot" to Austin, TX that is. But it's the most right thing to do and most true to me at this moment in time.
I'll learn how to scale properly, build an audience properly, delegate, budget, lead better, make EVEN BETTER stellar content, and more.
This is meant for me. Thank you God. I love you.
I got offered an opportunity for a job based on its interview and any contingencies thereafter at copy.ai, which just raised a seed round of $2.9 million on 3/17/21. I declined because I didn't want to take on too much at the time (a month ago while working on DB & Co).
Peoplee showing their true colors during this pivot. That's for certain.
My old self is being diminished. My new self is being called higher. The former is pulling back the latter. I'm a warrior. I must fight onwards. My old self got taken advantage of and was too nice for reasons already known (see here for more). I'm evolving so letting go of that is causing me to let go of other people who who were used to that. Wow.
When celebrating others wins and joyful moments, detach your own internal wants and need-based projections.
With this "pivot" it causes survival to kick in with business partners because they can't operate well without you, which puts them at unease because they can't put food on the table, etc....
You're going to let people down in certain ways, especially if you're leveling up in life, so to let go is the greatest form of progress in certain ways because you're letting go of the people, ideas, and things that were with that old part (as Tom says, "it's the shadow !")
The one's who understand you have to elevate and do what you do, are usually the best ones - don't be in business with your best friend for this exact reason
If someone's hurt by my decision and putting blame on my leaving, they're not going to make it in their business or realm of business - because they lack ownership, accountability, and if they lean on others outside of their business for that much help (excluding team resources and such (i.e. HubSpot), they were bound for failure because their foundation is faulty anyways
I have yet to find another person who does this one act that I do. It's odd, but it points to my focus on knowing self-consciousnesss and transcending such a thing. Since I have been progressing in psychology, self-awareness, and more, every-time I masturbate now (which is on rare occassion at this point), it is to understand my shadow more. It is to understand myself more. What an odd, yet interesting thing. I'm never going back to..... I can't. Even when I have sex, I'll probably think about evolutionary psychology, cognitive behavior, and more haha. The hole that psychology can bring you in haha - not saying that in a way of negative connotation either.
My values, principles, and blueprint (once I finish revising it) have been made even more solid with this trial under fire and "Pivot" - it's something Adam and I have been saying in conversation, that I need to work on going forward (since Adam does it extremely well and it's worked wonders for him)..... and I've done exactly that with this massive "Pivot"
Keep in mind, it’s not confidence that does the job, it’s first courage.
Death of a Salesman
Immense amount of risk in doing what I'm doing (hardest to breathe when closest to Everest). Worth it - if execution pans out or not.
From the outside in, everything seems okay with business and companies. It’s not. It never is. There are always fires. Ties.com, truckbux, and more.
No more real estate and no more reiki cert for now; when you have an opportunity make a decision fast. If not, the tides will flow by and you will regret that you didn’t capitalize. Build your boat (Metaphorically) for when these things a(rise) so that you can be prepared to take advantage of them. HUGE lesson. If you don’t do it now, you’ll probably never do it later. More often than not.
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